Moving on from the past

After reading my cousin's blog about her first love and break up, a lot of things came up to mind and I thought back to the time when I was in that same dark, cold pla and how I got out of it... Growing up is awesome because it comes with experience and experience comes with wiseness. One wrong thing that most of us do after being hurt and stripped of digninty is scrawling into a corner and feel sorry for ourselves. Welose all hope of finding hapiness and we become bitte when we should actually do the opposite.... Moving on is huge challenge but it do-able. Dwelling on any break-up is not emotionally healthy and keeps you from re-discovering your needs and wants from a relationship. The following tips will help you move on from your break up and guide you into finding love again. Number 1...Accept the Reality. Accept the fact that the relationship is over. Do not give yourself unrealistic fantasies that you might get back together one day. Respect the fact that the relationship had its time, but has no ran out ways to work. This was a chapter in your life that has now closed and you are now ready to grow and enter another chapter of your life. Learn from It. Everything is a learning experience, so use it your advantage! Look over your relationship and list what went good about it and what went wrong. Use these notes as a tool to improve your relationships skills. Never Generalize. Going through a break up does cause you emotional withdrawal and pain, which may cause you to generalize everyone you meet or choose to date. Keep in mind that everyone is an individual with their own unique qualities and personalities and your encounters with them will not carry the same experiences as your ex-relationship. Focus on You. Take some time to get to know yourself again before you get involved with someone else. Know what you really need and deserve and what you are ready to give another person. When you are sure about what you are willing to give and to receive, you will be able to find a partner who will suit you well.