Emotional Affairs

Being in a long term relationship has taught me a lot over the years. And one of the things I've learnt is that emotional connection between two people in love is very important. Emotions are a way for us to interact with the world around. Without emotions we would all be walking around like zombies.So imagine a relationship without any emotional connection what-so-ever. One will be left feeling like theres no use or point in being that relationship My friend called me the other day said she found some text messages on her man's phone to another girl. She was mad as hell and she wanted to leave him. I think that would be my first reaction also but theres always more to the story than meets the eye. I told my homegirl to sit her man down and talk about this because things had been rough between them and if one of them didnt want to be tied down anymore they would have split... TURNS OUT NIGGA WAS HAVING AN EMOTIONAL AFFAIR. HMMMMMmmmm. Emotional affair? is there even such a thing? The answer to that is YES The traditional definition of cheating is that one person in a committed relationship is physically involved with someone other than his/her spouse. In recent years, cheating has been reclassified to include not only the physical affair but, also, the emotional affair.An emotional affair is defined as any infidelity that occurs through feeling or thought. With the technological development of cell phones and the internet, the definition of cheating has been expanded to include the traditional definition, plus the feelings and/or thoughts that comprise emotional infidelity. Cheating now includes having intimate correspondence with someone while on a cell phone, meeting someone over the Internet and maintaining a close, personal relationship with someone other than your spouse. If you’re having an emotional affair here’s what you need to do today -Stop! Cut off all communication, contact, texting, emails, calls, and personal interaction with the other woman now! Any contact you maintain with the other woman is a peg THAT will destroy you, your marriage, your reputation, and your life. If the woman doesn’t know how you feel…you’re delusional…she knows how you feel and she knows that she’s been flirting with you, too. This is not the time to worry about embarrassing someone or hurting someone’s feelings or anything that keeps you from bolting back into the sanctity and safety of your marriage vows. - DONT give me any of this crap about “well it never got physical, so it wasn’t really CHEATING”! You have betrayed your PARTNER and lusted in your heart, so own that. You must also resist any temptation to excuse or justify your this. Shut up! You have been flirting with and lusting after another woman/man...so wake up and show some self-control! -Tell your partner .You will not get through this without being honest with both yourself and your other half. She/he will be devastated, feel betrayed…and she/he should! You are being unfaithful. A death has occurred: the death of the man she thought she knew and the death of the relationship she thought she had. She will grieve and you will let her. She has the moral high ground and has permission to feel whatever she needs to feel. You have lost the right to tell her how to feel. -Get some help. You and your partner will need counseling to get your relationship back on the right track, to work through the pain, and to start the long process of healing. Your pride and arrogance may lead you to believe that you can fix it on your own, but….you’re wrong! Humble yourself and get help -Keep hope alive. You can survive this as long as YOU do the following things: Stop the lustful relationship, tell the truth, seek forgiveness, seek God’s forgiveness, live every moment of the rest of your life seeking to be the man/woman your partner deserves. The security she knew or thought she had is gone. you may need to reassure her/him that she/he is the only one..... TILL WE MEET AGAIN, LOVE,RESPECT AND APPRECIATE ONE ANOTHER... PEACE